tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10837248.post1452290234689856672..comments2024-01-24T02:58:22.937-08:00Comments on Foolish Mutterings: What Is Love?aphronhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02203237871375124185noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10837248.post-68867066009832069092017-07-21T13:40:10.325-07:002017-07-21T13:40:10.325-07:00It's hard to say anything here without getting...It's hard to say anything here without getting hopelessly bogged down in semantics. . .<br /><br />It seems obvious enough that, in the context of marriage, anyway, any love worthy of the name is unconditional. Of course, it has its quid-pro-quo aspects; both spouses need to feel like they're benefitting from the marriage, and being cared for. If it's significantly one-sided, there's going to be trouble.<br /><br />I always say that the 50-50 marriage doesn't work - it only works on a 100-100 basis. Both spouses just need to 'go all-in', and not worry about who's getting more or less out of the deal. But obviously, that requires a lot of trust that the other has your best interest in heart, and isn't just in it for him/herself. Break that trust, and you've got trouble. 'Keeping score' doesn't work.<br /><br />See, I know I'm not telling you anything you don't know - not least that you've got trouble. But yeah - real love is unconditional (at least when we're talking about marriage; I hope we can agree that there is a category difference between marriage and pets). We're fallen human beings, so it's never as 'pure' as it ought to be, but love is what we're made for. Mother Theresa used to say that our main task in this life is to learn what it really means to love; it's just that that turns out to be more heart-breaking than we wish it was. . .Craighttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12044041773404411751noreply@blogger.com