Are Narcissistic PDs Negative?
Are Narcissistic Personality Disordered people negative? Do they tend to see negativity everywhere they go? Do they cast a pall over everything?
Sybil seems to only want to see the down sides to everything. Everything is the end of the world. The more something is outside her control, the more anxiety she feels over it. Is it because she feels that the spot light is not shining on her? Is that the way she can shine the light back on her?
We all have our moments of self-doubt and anxiety over situations. Sybil tends to way over-react to them. Example: for Son#3 we have a video monitor for his room. We can watch him all of the time (kind of creepy...but that was not the hill on which I wanted to die). I dropped the monitoring unit and broke it. An accident. Yes, it would cost us some money, but the reaction I got from Sybil was way over the top. She came unglued and ranted how I put us in the poor house. Ironically, she dropped the new monitor months after the incident and nary a peep.
I think NPDs need to feel the calming warmth of control. They feel a lot of anxiety over situations that are out of their control. That is one of Sybil's defining traits is the need to be in control...to plan...to make sure every contingency is allotted for. In doing so, she can "pat herself on the back" for doing a job well. The lack of control speaks to her deep seated insecurity. Her insecurity inflames her anxiety to the point of her not sleeping and being difficult with which to live. Being in control, is like a warm blanket to snuggle in. This explains Sybil's dislike of adventurous activities, even roller coasters.
Or maybe I'm too much of a Polly Anna.