Not much new to report. I thought I would check in, though.
Sybil almost nuked our marriage last month over some comments I made. The comments were pretty bad. I said things like...well...they were so bad that I can't remember them. I remember thinking what is going on? What kind of statement is so bad that one would threaten divorce? I didn't say that I didn't love her, or I don't find her attractive, or her gaining 25 lbs. of weight is off putting. It was pretty bad, though, because she told me it was. It was so bad it made Sybil want to end a nearly 20 year marriage. They were that bad. Too bad I can't remember them.
Throughout the ordeal I was not going to move out of the house. I told her that she is welcome to move out any time. Any divorce is strictly her decision. I do not believe in divorce, unless adultery is involved.
We didn't get divorced. I don't think because she started to see her lack of logic or she really loves me. Nope. It is purely mercenary: she would be broke and lost without me. All of her income comes from me and, more importantly, her vocation. Although she has a college degree, she has never had a real job outside of a family business. Looking for a job in this economy for a 40 year old woman with no past experience would be daunting to say the least. It would entail asking customers, if they want fries with that. That killed whatever bug caused her to vehemently state that she wanted a divorce for my horrible comments, that I can't remember.
The demand of the loveless and the self-imprisoned that they should be allowed to blackmail the universe: that till they consent to be happy (on their own terms) no one else shall taste joy: that theirs should be the final power; that Hell should be able to veto Heaven. The Great Divorce. C.S. Lewis
5 comments:
I feel for you, so destructive and hateful. Too bad you're senile huh? There were a number of times, (thankfully in the past, for me), when that type of "you did/said this" would be thrown out, and all I could think was "You're upset because of a conversation that happened in your head", ugh-
I pulled my blog offline in Dec when suspicions were confirmed that Ex had been reading... Not that there was anything overly-incriminating or "scandalous" as one of my friends noted, I just wasn't comfortable with it!
Current spouse seems contented enough w/the status quo & I guess I am too since I am reluctant to rock the boat...
Arrghhhh...you can't remember! I think that's a fault. Being forgetful is so horrific you're spuse should divorce you...or maybe you just forget to say...I'm sorry for whatever?! :)
Cheers!
Just dropping by...hope all's well with you. :)
Haven't heard from you in over a year....just wondering how things are going?
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