A new dilemma has arisen. My class reunion is coming up. Sybil has known about it for a long time. We even blocked off days at the office to make the trip.
Naturally, Sybil has found a way to sabotage it. I was trying to confirm whether or not she was going, since the deadline to pay was coming. She became triggered. Apparently, I should not have asked whether or not she was going. Instead, I should have had everything planned (including caring for our 3 yo) and then asked her. Since I started with asking her whether or not she was going, I did it wrong. I explained that I wanted to make sure she was up for it, and then we can put our heads together to plan it. She continued to get angry about not planning, and about my not acknowledging she had a point. The latter eventually led to a complete melt down by her. To add to her perceived insult, I started trying to use Medium Chill to not feed her narcissism. Seeing that she was not getting the reaction she wanted, she started becoming very emotional and stomped away. Meanwhile, my question is left unanswered.
Now we have a smoldering fire. I have not brought the subject back up. Sybil is acting like a pouting, insolent child. As I see it, I have a choice: not go to my reunion (which is what Sybil really wants) which will add to my resentment or go and face the music when I get back (I may find my stuff on the Front lawn).
Stay tuned...
The demand of the loveless and the self-imprisoned that they should be allowed to blackmail the universe: that till they consent to be happy (on their own terms) no one else shall taste joy: that theirs should be the final power; that Hell should be able to veto Heaven. The Great Divorce. C.S. Lewis
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If you want to go, go. And have a good time. If she comes with you, fine; if she doesn't, fine. You can't let her emotions run your life. . .
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