Whomever Anon is...God bless you. You must have a bunch of articles saved somewhere.
The latest is this one: 25 Signs of Covert Narcissism: A Special Kind of Mind Game. I'd say that Sybil has all 25 signs, especially the ability to turn the discussion around onto herself and playing the victim card. I think the reason I was stuck not wanting to believe that she has narcissistic personality disorder is that part about engaging in engaging in high-risk activities. That is something Sybil will not do. Otherwise, she fits the bill.
At the end of the article, the author gives the following advice: "Highly destructive to your self-esteem, if you are with one, you should find your way out while you can still leave with your heart, mind, and sensibilities still intact." I could not agree more. Unfortunately, the mind f&@ck a covert narcissist is able to do is unbelievable. I'm not sure an average person would be able to recognize this personality type, unless they have been down that dark road. The dopamine of being in a new relationship makes things seem rosier than they really are.
Anyway, the more I study the problem, the more I am confident that Sybil has narcissistic traits...at the very least. Whether or not she is full on Narcissistic Personality Disorder, I am not a mental health expert, but she seems to fit the bill. The thing is she is not like a monster all of the time, if she gets her way. That's the key.
Aye, there's the rub. If someone always gets their way, then they come to expect to always get their way. Everyone else becomes a means to an end. If one refuses to give in, one has to live with a child that is throwing tantrums. A sane, rational person does not do the things Sybil does, when she is having a fit. Boundaries are an easy thing to set, but an intelligent covert narcissist is a whole other animal. Twisting my words and her words around until my head spins. I've thought of taking notes to keep it all straight. That just feeds the JADEing, though.
The demand of the loveless and the self-imprisoned that they should be allowed to blackmail the universe: that till they consent to be happy (on their own terms) no one else shall taste joy: that theirs should be the final power; that Hell should be able to veto Heaven. The Great Divorce. C.S. Lewis
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You are welcome -- I'm just glad the articles are helpful. All we can really do about these baffling Personality Disorders is to educate ourselves about them -- knowledge really is power, even when we often feel powerless against the ongoing negativity of the PD's chronic condition. I surely do often wish I knew waaaaaay back when what I do know now, could have saved a lot of confusion and heartache -- still, it's never too late to learn and come in out of the FOG....
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